The Best Part

I never thought I’d say this, but I’m actually having fun with my new business. 

Work isn’t generally something we associate with “fun,” and I didn’t choose to do this because I thought it would be “fun.”  I’m sure there are people who choose this for that reason alone.  People decide to go into this type of business for all sorts of reasons.  Some do it for the money.  Some want to dream big.  Some are lonely and are just looking for social interaction.  Some even do it for the personal development.  I have a friend who did it because she wanted to push herself out of her comfort zone.  She felt she wasted too much of her life worrying about what others thought, and she wanted to break free of that.

So why did I do it?

Believe it or not, I didn’t do it for the money.  I mean… don’t get me wrong.  I want to make money.  But that is not why I did this.  I did this because I was open for an adventure, something completely out of my comfort zone.  I wasn’t stuck anymore.  I didn’t have to do this.  The irony is that when I was stuck, I would have never taken this leap.  Not only would I have doubted my ability to be successful, but I would have preferred to stay stuck because it was (depressingly) comfortable.  I would have preferred to stay in the miserable known over taking a risk and leaping into any type of unknown.  But that’s not why I did this either.  I did it because the right person approached me, someone I trusted who had never been in this industry before and believed in this product.  Again, that’s not the reason either.  The main reason I did it was because, sadly, I knew too many people who were unhappy with their careers and wanted a way out.  I’ll never forget what it was like to be there, and if I could offer some hope, encouragement, or even a tangible option, then I knew I would truly feel fulfilled.

Have I gotten what I came for?

Yes.

So far I have gained a lot from this experience, but I’m consistently reminded of the best part: when a friend says yes.  It’s not about making a sale.  It’s about what the yes represents.  They say yes to the adventure, yes to the dream, yes to change, yes to growth, yes to a better future.  And we get to do that together.  It’s exhilarating to make that connection and know that it’s not just about you anymore.  Have you ever noticed that when you find a restaurant you love or the new salon down the street, that you want to share it with your friends?  Why is that?  I do that all the time.  I want my friends to try a great recipe I made or a skin cream that I can’t live without.  I want to spread the joy simply for that, but also because it’s more fun to share things you love with people you love.

It brings you together and creates a common bond.

When I started this, I had no idea what the social impact would be.  I already had a lot of friends, and I thought I didn’t really need more social interaction.  Looking back, I’m not sure why I felt that there was no room in my life for more.  I couldn’t have been more wrong.  As the years have gone on, I see my friends less.  I don’t have kids, and most of my friends do.  I never realized how isolating that one, small difference can be.  While we are still great friends, and that difference between us hasn’t ruined our friendships, it has just changed them.  We don’t get to see each other as often, and that sometimes feels lonely.  As more friends joined me in this business, I saw how this could bridge that gap with all different types of people: old friends, new friends, acquaintances, friends with kids, single friends, old co-worker friends, and even old patient friends.  In a world where business is all business, it’s nice to know I’ve found a job where there is a place for friendship.

And that is the best part.

 

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9 thoughts on “The Best Part

  1. very good to have fun in your work, and to be with friends. Glad it’s all going well. Not sure if you’ve said what you are selling yet, but couldn’t find out from previous posts, can’t figure why it’s a secret as you’re so happy you can’t be ashamed of it surely!? Mind you, the advert at the bottom of the page as I read your blog is for Durex, so am wondering…..:)

    1. Thanks, fraggle! It has definitely been a welcome surprise. I haven’t revealed it yet. I will tell you though in an email if you want to know. 😉 I will probably reveal it eventually. I wanted the blog to feel a little more authentic about the experience, and not feel like it was an attempt to push product. Hmm… Durex. Now that is a thought. Could explain why this is so much fun?? 😉

    1. Thanks! It has not been easy, but it has been worth it. That was the same thing that motivates me. I always think, when I wake up one morning at the age of 65, will I look back with regret? That drives me. BTW– I use 65 b/c at that age, there’s still more time. I never want to wait until 85 to look back. Wishing you the best as well!

  2. How funny that I found your blog! I’ve been working as a dentist for the public health service for almost ten years, and I just resigned from it a month ago. My husband and I are on vacation this week, and I spent a lot of my time researching different career choices. I never got to run my own pratice so I can’t relate to you in that sense, but I can understand the other stresss of being a dentist. I am still currently working part time as a dentist at a different practice, but ever since I quit working full time, I am realizing that maybe dentistry isn’t for me anymore. It is good to hear that things are going well for you.

    1. Hi Pauline,
      I’m so glad you found it! There are a lot of us out there. We just need to connect like this to be reassured that it’s okay if we don’t really like it all that much. Congrats on your resignation! I’m glad you are enjoying doing this part-time. I did the same thing a while ago, and it was definitely the right way to transition for me. I hope you have a wonderful time on your vacation. What are you thinking of doing next?

  3. A newer dentist gave me your information. I love it. I search daily for alternative careers. I’m even diving more into dentistry- kicking and screaming- to add to my resume and hopefully open new doors. Being a dental specialist is a mixed blessing. As I get to explore my true life passions, I dread the realization that I may potentially walk into my office every day for the next 15-20 years. I truly look forward to reading all your posts- past and future. Your “why you’re dentist hates you too” will be very dangerous to me and inspiring.

    1. Glad you found the blog! I think specialist or not, not all of us are cut out for this. I felt the same way– 20 more years? No way! I didn’t have it in me. I bet you’ll find something– keep up the search, and it’ll work out!!

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