Opportunities: From Scarcity to Abundance

In case you were still wondering… I didn’t win the Biggest Baddest Bucket List Competition.  If I had, you would have heard about it right away, over and over.  In fact, you’d probably be sick of me by now.

While I’ve summarized my journey into and out of dentistry on this blog, I realize I haven’t shared much of how life has been “post-retirement.”  It’s no secret that I believe it was the best decision I could have made for myself.  It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, but it was right.  I am finally content, and when I recall where I was 5 years ago, I get even happier, filling with gratitude for my life as it is (or isn’t) today.  However, it’s not just about what I’m not doing, but also what I am doing.

So what am I doing now?

I run a weight loss practice.  It’s fun.  It’s easy.  I get to help people get healthier and look and feel better.  The worst news I ever have to give anyone is reveal that they didn’t lose 2 pounds that week.  They usually already know anyway, so it’s not a surprise.  At times the job is mildly frustrating because I want everyone to succeed.  The frustration is short-lived though, as I remind myself that whatever outcome occurs, it is the client’s choice.  I am there to support, not to judge.  They get to do the work.  They get to take the credit for their successes, just as they get to take the credit for their missteps, and in some cases their failures.

Outside of work, my days are also quite lovely.  Not every day is easy though.  It’s not as if I am suddenly “cured” and all my worries are gone.  Some days I still feel insecure.  Some days, although rare, I still feel like a failure.  Some days I wish my new business would become more successful more quickly.  Some days I worry that I am not interesting, exciting, or successful enough and that my husband, who is making many exciting career moves of his own, will grow out of me and get bored.

But most days, I feel at peace. 

I don’t know where I’m going.  I don’t have it all mapped out.  But for the first time in my life I do feel that everything will be okay, if not great.  Who knows?  I may be at my current job a year from now, or I may be doing something completely different.  This uncertainty doesn’t give me the same anxiety and fear it did 2 years ago. I don’t have to follow any of the self-imposed rules that held me back before.  Instead of being closed off, my world is open now.

The biggest surprise is the abundance of new opportunities that keep finding me.

I used sit in my dental office talking to patients and secretly daydreaming that one of them would rescue me and say, “hey, I think you would be great at such-and-such, and I think you should come work with me at your dream job in my awesome company.”  It never happened.  There were no lucky breaks.  Ever.  As hard as I searched, I could not even find one thing to do for a living other than be a dentist.  I stayed in dentistry because I had no way out, no Plan B.  But now I beam with delight noticing how many opportunities continue to show up.  They aren’t golden tickets or magic pills that will miraculously and immediately bring me everything I want in life.  They are ideas and invitations that will require hard work, nurturing, and courage to bring them to fruition.  Those really are the best kind of opportunities, and the challenges and possibilities excite me.

What’s changed?  Is it my perspective?  Were they here all along, and I simply missed them?

I entered My Biggest Baddest Bucket List Competition over a month ago.  I entered confident that it would open unexpected doors for me.  I also entered as a way to celebrate how my first travel contest ultimately got me to where I am today.  It was a tribute, a symbol; and I never want to stop celebrating the creative spirit that can so easily become neglected.  This contest delivered!  After it ended, I received an email from the guys at My Destination with an opportunity to become a part of the My Destination family.  What!?!?  Had this offer come my way in 2009, I would have found my dream job.  But in 2013 I realize I don’t have the time to dedicate to an endeavor this large.  I am committed to other projects that I need to see through, and having my own My Destination site would require more than I am able to give right now.  Having to pass it up is hard because I want it– along with all the other fun propositions I have my eye on.

How can I do it all?

Since the timing isn’t right for me, I want to share it with you.  This is a stellar company with a group of passionate people who have continued to impress me every step of the way.  Check it out here. Find out if it is right for you and if you are right for them.  Because I really believe that once you get the ball rolling, it will keep rolling.  If you are looking for a BIG change, this may be what you have been waiting for.

Oh, and tell them I sent you over.  I may have a little clout over there.  Just kidding.  But do tell them I sent you.


17 thoughts on “Opportunities: From Scarcity to Abundance

  1. Hello !
    Lolabees , there isn’t a human who doesn’t share moments of insecurity with you . However, you have courage and the ability to dream – and forever you will have so much self respect that you made a leap of faith .
    In the end it doesn’t matter what job or how much money you have – what stays with us and beyond us is the spirit we had , the happiness we enjoyed and the lives of friends and strangers we improved !
    Just out of interest – the weight loss you advocate is that solely through the ideal protein diet ?
    Wishing you a lovely week ahead
    Love rinku from the uk !
    For queen and country 😉

    1. Hi Rinku! Great to hear your thoughts, as always. You are very right. It occurred to me that on outward appearance, it’s as if I changed careers, and now my life is perfect. While I have a great life, and I appreciate it now, I thought it was important to share that sometimes I do have some of those self-defeating thoughts too. Your words are so uplifting and kind, and that is the stuff that erases all of the doubt and helps keep me inspired.
      Yes, the weight loss program I do is strictly Ideal Protein. They have a great formula that works very well.

      And might I add… you certainly do have a way with words! I’d love to read something of yours someday!

  2. Change is always scary…..speaking from experience. We’re getting ready for another change and it’s caused many a sleepless night. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Great post! I love your creativity and writing style. AND, that you’ve indeed moved on to bigger and better adventures in life.

  4. Thank you – it is a shame that you didn’t win, as such: surely the entering, the writing, the meeting others in a rapidly growing online community. Being adopted into a new family – having found that you needed to tell your extended family that you don’t have enough time for them now. Making a difference to others, not only 2lb a week (or not) but in that support and genuine interest in them that, I feel, sure that you give.
    In all of this and your pursuit of more; surely you are continually winning?
    Congratulations 🙂

    1. What a lovely comment, JJ. Thanks for that. You totally get it and actually summed it up better than I could have. As I mentioned to Rinku, t’s thoughts like these that keep me inspired and excited to keep dreaming!

  5. Hi

    Great to read your blog. Evrything you write sounds like an echo in my own life.I have been a Dentist for 17 years now and hated it from day one. Although I dislike the work, the thing is I.m good at it. I have spent quite a few years in private practice which went really well, however It was not fufilling or rewarding in a “I love my work’ kind a of way. I decided to leave and work as Dentist in a large company in the Netherlands (I am from South Africa). After a year and a half returned back to South Africa, bought a practice and studied for my MBA through a good U.K. school, part timel. After 5 years of being in the practice, I accepted a job from a large mining company in their healthcare division as a Dentist. I completed my degree and am still with the mining company after 5 yrs, still working as a Clinical Dentist. I did a part time consulting role with a multinational pharrma as a Dental expert in strategic marketing of oral care products. I found huge enjoyment in doing this, hower due to cost cutting , this position was not renewed.
    Like you. I waited for the day a patient would ‘realise’ my potential and say why don’t you come and work for us…., however over the years I realised this to be nothing more than a unrealistic expectation. I still have not given up on my dream of working in a non clincal position and regularly apply for postions in healthcare,,,but am yet to be successful. I realised that by changing jpbs alot, I was actually trying to change the environment that i worked in due to the fact that i couldn’t change my occupation.
    I am glad that you found your way out as sometimes our lifestyles create our prisons for us. I wish you all the success in the future.



    1. Hi Ash,
      Thanks for sharing your story. I love hearing how the dental career is for other dentists, especially those from other countries. I’ve learned that a lot of what we go through is very universal, regardless of culture. Your path is fascinating, and it’s so inspiring that you have never given up. It sounds like you really know what you want and will do what it takes to get it. I think that will eventually pay off. You also prove a point that I like to make here quite often– just because you don’t like it, doesn’t mean you aren’t good at it. It’s a judgement (at times a false one) we face when we admit the truth. I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed the blog, and thanks so much for your encouragement! Wishing you the very best and hoping you finally break free into the dream job you’re looking for. Keep me posted when you get to switch away from clinical practice! I’d love to hear how it goes for you. 🙂

      1. Thanks for the kind words Lolabees. Will keep in touch and will contribute further to your blog regarding my dental ‘ adventures’. 🙂

  6. “I used sit in my dental office talking to patients and secretly daydreaming that one of them would rescue me and say, “hey, I think you would be great at such-and-such, and I think you should come work with me at your dream job in my awesome company.” ”

    That made me howl with laughter sat here in England at twenty to two in the morning! 😀 I also have similar dreams regarding my winning lottery ticket, of marrying – well, anyone lol – and of your magic weight loss programme working for me without me actually having to do it 😀

    1. Jas- you certainly made my night when I saw that you were up at 2 am hoping to sleep but stuck reading the blog! We all dream of an easy way out, don’t we?

  7. This is such an amazing story! Thank you for giving us all inspiration and keeping up the good work! I love love reading about your life – it inspires me to do better everyday!

  8. I so understand your enjoyment of your weight loss venture. One thing I’ve always known about myself is I didn’t want to suffer chronic stress at my job. For many people, chronic stress is almost as natural as breathing. Yet that wasn’t always the case. For most of human existence, chronic stress was almost unheard of. Managing debt, studying to pass exams, dealing with people’s welfare every day, etc. is relatively new. More $$ can’t change that; especially for those who aren’t passionate enough about their field to endure these issues.

    1. Me too! What really helped me leave was the idea I kept telling myself that I didn’t need to suffer my way through life for it to be valuable or to have meaning. That’s so important to me. What’s the point of living that way anyway? I’m sure you know those people who thrive on stress? I have some friends that way, and I love them dearly, but I just don’t understand it!

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