My Coming Out Party

One or two of you might be wondering where I’ve been the past few weeks.  I had a chance to do what I love doing most.

Visit new cities…


Celebrate love and life with old friends…

Lusi and Andrew’s Wedding

And splurge on yummy foods I probably shouldn’t eat…

Verona, Italy

I’ll have more on that later, but first, I have some unfinished business here.  You’re probably dying to know about this coming out business, right?  Hold on, it’s not what you think.  I recently described how I was finally able forced to face actually leaving my career.  I made the decision, and that was it… mostly.

I officially gave my notice in late July.  My last day in the office was November 17, 2011.  What happened between July and December is probably the juiciest part of the whole 10 years of story I’ve described.  But I better not go into it here.  Let’s just say I didn’t get a going away party thrown for me when I left, a standard tradition for “cordial” employee departures at this office.

But something happened here that could never be topped by a silly office party.  As I like to describe it, I finally came out of the closet.  I finally shared with the world a secret I kept inside for many years.

And then guess what happened?

You all gave me the best going away party I could have ever asked for.

Support, laughter, and excitement rolled in from all over the world from a bunch of strangers who took a moment to listen and relate.

I wasn’t always confident I was doing the right thing, and this support got me through those insecure times.  Suddenly I wasn’t going through this difficult separation alone, and I learned that I wasn’t a freak of nature or a loser for not loving what is in many ways a great career.  This camaraderie prevented me from going to that place of doubt and insecurity on a daily basis.

It allowed me to celebrate the changes and connect with others driven to make their own changes in life.

So I owe you all one big giant THANK YOU!



15 thoughts on “My Coming Out Party

  1. I made the blog…I’ve officially arrived! Great spending time with you and Nick in the beautiful old city of Prague. Let’s do it again soon.

  2. And finding and reading your blog did the same thing for me! It was nice to find out I’m not the only one who felt like my career as a dentist may not be the right fit. Thank you for putting it “out there”!

    1. Thanks and you’re welcome, Kristen. I’ve always appreciated hearing your story and common feelings about the field. I am especially impressed by how you were able to get back in the career and really enjoy and appreciate it the second time around! Maybe that’s what I need– 10 years off! 😉

  3. Hello my dear~! Always a good read here and I’ve just done the same, probably going into the phase of “uncertainty” , “months between” soon! Hopefully I’ll be strong like you!

  4. It’s very interesting to know that you were going through the change the same time I was! I left a practice I owned for 5 years back in December. I made the decision about 4 months before that and have to say it was the hardest thing I have ever done….telling my great staff that I was leaving and then informing the patients. There is not a day that goes by that I am not so thankful that I was able to leave and move on to something I enjoy so much more. Many people still don’t understand how I could give up something so great…the American Dream, right?! I have enjoyed reading your blog. Thank you!

    1. Who would ever think leaving something you don’t enjoy would be so difficult? I was also SO worried about letting everyone else down. Sounds like you made a great move for yourself. Just curious– what are you doing now? Thanks for joining me on this ride. Like I said, it’s been awesome to have others in the same situation share their experiences.

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